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“Letting go is a process that allows you to proceed”—self

Not the happiest place, but still a sense of peace. I saw these serene dears on one of my visits to loved ones I have lost.

One of the quotes that really helps me get through challenging times in my life is by C.S. Lewis: “Letting go is like being on the monkey bars, you have to let go to move forward.”

What really sticks to me about this quote is it is hard sometimes to feel like you can let go—like it is a possibility, and like the burden of whatever emotional pain there is will be with you forever. But, at the same time, if you don’t let go, you’re going to just hang there– arms getting tired. You have to exert yourself forward, and push yourself to grab the next bar to move on.  It’s an important lesson life, learning to let go.

Easier said than done, n’est pas? I stumbled upon a clever article online that shared wisdom on ways to let go. I don’t feel it can be a step by step manual. It’s a process that takes time and patience. Yet, the article did have some good tips, despite some of the more obvious ones (do yoga, take responsibility, cry), it had a lot of great ways to go through the process. I like the suggestion of remembering both the good and the bad. It’s true the way we view loss tends to be so one sided—we often romanticize how we feel about a person or situation—whether it is a loss of a friend, job, situation—whatever we may be our loss, when we romanticize the past, we tend to feel bad about the present. Read a great blog post on a lawyer dealing with the loss of her career as a law professor and having to embrace chronic illness, and the experience of a loss of a friendship here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/turning-straw-gold/201308/romanticizing-the-past-makes-us-feel-bad-about-the-present

I think there are a lot of great articles online on the benefits of letting go, and even ways to let go. But one thing I noticed in my own personal journey is that letting go is a lot like forgiveness it is a process. Let’s say that slowly—it’s a process. A process. Some order of changes that happen either by choice or not, but that allow us to proceed.

3 Books on Letting go.

I’ve bookmarked the following to read, to help me with my own journey of letting go, and hopefully help others on their journey.

  1. The Little Book of Letting Go: A Revolutionary 30-Day Program to Cleanse Your Mind, Lift Your Spirit and Replenish Your Soul by Hugh Prather
  2. Let go by Francois Fenelon (amazing to think he penned this 300 years ago.
  3. Letting go: The pathway to surrender by David Hawkins